Some traditions fade for good reason. Matching chair covers? We’ve moved on. But others, like the humble bonbonniere, are still very much part of the wedding conversation. The trick is making them feel like you.

Once upon a time, everyone did sugared almonds. Not just any number either, always an odd number, usually five, Why? Because an odd number can’t be evenly split, symbolising unity and the inseparable nature of marriage. And those five almonds? Each one carries meaning: health, wealth, happiness, fertility, and longevity.

It’s a sweet tradition (literally), fast forward to now, and bonbonniere aren’t about ticking a box, they’re about saying thank you in a way that feels thoughtful, modern, and more than a little joyful.

Do You Need to Do Bonbonniere?

Honestly? Only if you want to. This isn’t about obligation. But there’s something really lovely about giving your guests a little keepsake to take home, a small token of appreciation that mirrors the thought you’ve poured into the day itself.

Bonbonniere aren’t outdated. They’re evolving.

Why Chocolate (with a Nod to Tradition) Makes Sense

Here’s the thing about chocolate: it’s universally adored. No one’s leaving that behind on a table. A beautifully wrapped box, a personalised chocolate bar, a sweet surprise tucked under a ribbon, it’s the kind of detail people remember. You can even add a personalised chocolate with your names, initials. 

And if you’re someone who still loves the symbolism of sugared almonds? You don’t have to choose between old and new. Chocolate and almonds can sit side by side beautifully, tradition wrapped in something everyone will actually want to eat.

The Meaning Behind the Gesture

At its heart, bonbonniere is about gratitude. It’s a way to acknowledge the people who showed up for you, whether they flew in from overseas or just survived your seating plan.

It’s a small detail that says:
“We noticed you. We appreciate you. Thank you for being here.”

And yes, chocolate says that better than most other favours.

Alternatives (If You’re Curious)

Of course, chocolate isn’t the only way to go. Other ideas popping up at weddings lately:

  • Mini bottles of bubbles or spirits

  • Locally made honey or olive oil

  • Personalised keepsakes

  • Seed packets for something eco-friendly

  • Charitable donations in guests’ names

But when it comes to pure joy, chocolate (and maybe a handful of almonds for good luck) still wins.

Final Thought: Keep the Tradition, Make It Yours

Bonbonniere isn’t about following rules. It’s about marking the moment. Giving a little something back to the people who helped make your day so special.

Whether it’s a box of chocolate, a few sugared almonds, or something entirely different, choose what feels meaningful. That’s the version of tradition worth keeping.

Because the best weddings aren’t about trends. They’re about you.